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Do You Hate Homosexuals?

I received an email from a visitor named Glenn who was confused about a statement I made in our posting What SIECUS Wants Your Kids To Know About Sex. The statement was "We must love the homosexual, but likewise we must hate homosexuality." Glenn's message sounded patient, humble, and sincere. I prayed that Jesus would give me the words He wanted Glenn to hear, so I just let the fingers fly with little thought - this posting is the result - the email exchange verbatim. Jesus clearly led my words. His guidance was so strong I got the impression the message should be shared with all as testimony to His willingness and ability to lead in whatever way you need guidance. The individual I asked to proofread this concurred. Glenn's text is in dark blue Typewriter font.

Thomas A. Carder
ChildCare Action Project: Christian Analysis of American Culture (CAP)
P. O. Box 177
Granbury, TX 76048-0177


I just read your page titled "What SIECUS* Wants Your Kids To Know About Sex," and I have a question or two for you.

You wrote in your article:

We must love the homosexual, but likewise we must hate homosexuality.

I've heard this before, but I'm confused. Why must you hate at all? Isn't hate an emotion you attribute to evil and to Satan?

No. The reason you hate is what may come from Satan.

Isn't a truly Christian approach one only filled with love?

No. Please keep in mind that the hatred to which I refer is not toward a human, but to that which humans do: a subtle but very real and defining distinction. Christians feel all the emotions non-Chrsitians feel. Every one of them. It is, however, our charge to love everyone, but not everything they do. I have never met you but I love you. And I have no fear of nor apprehension for saying that. And it is not a cheap 'iloveyouwhat'sfordinner" flippant shallow kind of love. It is a love that Jesus has given me to share - a love I would not have if Jesus had not given it to me. Have you heard the song about "love isn't love until it's given away?" Well, this is the kind of love I have for you as my brother in Christ; one of His creations. It is not a homosexual love: it is not sexual love at all. It is a love borne of concern for you and a dependency on you to offer the same love: a relationship that, should I become hurt and in emotional pain, I could rely on you to help me through it as you could rely on me for the same. That is my love for you, Glenn.

Did Jesus command (I'm actually asking this) us to hate certain things?

Yes, by example. Indeed, Jesus does hate. While Jesus deeply and dearly loves every being that breathes and has breathed and ever will breathe, He hates some of those things we do. In Proverbs, Jesus set the example for hate: not that we are to hate for reasons of satisfaction, gratification, retaliation, or reciprocity, rather we are to hate unacceptable behavior; that He hates these acts to give us reason to avoid committing them.

Prov. 6:16 These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him.

Prov. 6:17 A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood.

Prov. 6:18 An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief.

Prov. 6:19 A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.

Note that, accounting for the limitations of the english language, each and every one of these specifications of hate are against an act NOT against the actor/actress. Even when Jesus refers to "...he who soweth discord..." Jesus is not talking about the one sowing the discord, but is talking about the act of sowing discord. Jesus can see well beyond the exterior you and I see when we look at someone who does wrong - we have a difficult time seeing that individual any other way. We tend to believe that once someone, for example, commits incestuous rape that the individual who can do it once can do it again, and again, and again... But Jesus sees into the heart of the actor and sees a pure and noble individual covered in sin. So, maybe now you can see that Jesus hates the sin but NOT the SINNER because ANYONE can choose to not sin.

Can the emotion of hatred be considered holy?

No. Neither can love, envy, compassion, or greed or any other emotion be considered holy. No emotion is holy. Holiness is a gift of grace bestowed upon us by the Love of Christ by our act of faith in His Lordship and perfect Wisdom and Law. Holiness is an after-the-fact gift resulting from His cleansing of our sins by acceptance and belief - beyond any shadow of a doubt - that Christ GAVE His life that we may be saved from eternal damnation (more on that if you want). Bottom line: holiness is a desire to serve and glorify God. The term 'holy' has become abused, distorted, and counterfeited almost beyond recognition: almost to the point of becoming meaningless to modern man.

It seems to me that those times in Christian history when holiness and hatred were bound that only suffering and evil came as a result.

I do not understand this point. What do you mean by "...when holiness and hatred were bound...?"

I would add that I took sex education in school about 12 years ago (in the US) and I was taught the same things you've listed on your page. I don't quite see what the urgency is.

That is precisely why it is so urgent.

Thanks for providing the interesting web site. I understand these issues are complicated and that discussing rationally those things that are engrained through emotion and belief is often almost impossible. If you have time, I'd be interested to read any reply you might have.

I pray Jesus has given me the words He wanted you to hear.

Always in Jesus' name.
Thomas A. Carder
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