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My BIg Fat Greek Wedding (2001), PG
Analysis Date: April 19, 2002
CAP Score: 73
CAP Influence Density: 0.48
MY BIG FAT GREEK WEDDING (PG) -- most of it is wholesome and gentle but some is not.
Distributed by: Lions Gate
Director(s): Joel Zwick
Producer(s): Paul Brooks, Gary Goetzman, Tom Hanks, Mark Hufnail, Melissa Jo Peltier, Steve Shareshian, Norm Waitt, Rita Wilson
Written by/Screenplay: Nia Vardalos
Cinematography/Camera: Jeff Jur
Music: Xandy Janko
Film Editing: Mia Goldman
Casting: Meg Liberman, Camille H. Patton
Art Direction: Kei Ng
I know nothing of the modern Greek culture other than what the movies tell me. But if My Big Fat Greek Wedding is accurate to the lifestyle of the Greek family, America would do well to take example from the Greeks. Some top notch family values and ethics are presented in this warm and quite touching film about the daughter of a Greek American family breaking with tradition and (initially) breaking her father's head-of-the-house heart. Something we men can take a little tail-between-the-legs lesson from in this movie is the portrayal of the husband/wife relationship. You know. The husband, Gus Portokalos (Michael Constantine) in this case is, by Gods' Word, the head of the wife and family. The final authority. The last word. The big honcho, etc. But Gus' wife, Maria (Lainie Kazan) saw things a little differently. This movie, though a fantasy, puts a fine point to the husband/wife relationship by reminding us husbands that while we can be the head as much as we want, the wife is the neck. And the neck can turn the head any which way she wants. Sure, we can argue that the head contains the brain and gives commands to the rest of the body, but the head would not be there if it were not for the neck. Yes, we can argue all we want but since the wife is the neck, which contains the voice box, we may not get a word in edgewise.
Toula Portokalos (Nia Vardalos) was the 30 year old daughter of Gus Portokalos (Michael Constantine) working in the family restaurant, the Dancing Zorbas as the seating hostess. Toula was unhappy. She thought she was too old to honor her father's wishes that she marry a Greek, have Greek babies, and feed everyone. Time and time again, Gus reminded her of this. Resigning herself to her father's assessment of her, Toula got the idea to take some computer classes so she could help her father streamline his antiquated business operations.
One day, an acquaintance came into the restaurant with a friend, Ian Miller (John Corbett). Toula spied Ian. Her chemistry kicked in. But Toula tried everything to avoid letting Ian see her. She stood with her back to him. She crouched to her neck behind the counter. She always looked down. Anything to keep Ian from seeing her. She could not let anything grow of this! He was not Greek. Her father would never approve! But each attempt failed. Ian spied Toula and a spark ignited.
Shortly after meeting Ian, Gus, thinking it was his idea not knowing the neck turned the head, agreed to let Toula work at a freind's tourist agency sine Toula knew computers now and no one else in the family knew how to use them as well as Tioula and the tourist agency was run by operating computers. But even that turn of the neck didn't work to save Toula from the discomfort of causing her father's disapproval. Toula discovered she just had to let things happen. Oh, darn! Now Toula had to choose between her father's wishes and this tall, good looking, nice guy who loves her for who she is.
One day, Ian strolled by the tourist agency where Toula worked and spied her. Another day came and Ian strolled by again. Another day. Another stroll. And another. On onee of the several days that Ian strolled by the tourist agency, as he was casually eyeballing Toula, he ran into an elderly lady and fell to the sidewalk. While Ian was on the ground the elderly lady swatted him several times with her handbag. Ian graciously apologized for running into the lady and accepted the beating. There was gold in that scene. A scene in National Security reminded me of this scene with Ian. In National Security, Officer Hank tried to commandeer a vehcile from a motherly lady by telling her "GET OUT OF THE CAR!" She slapped him silly several times and told him "Didn't your momma teach you anything about manners?" And Officer Hank took the slaps graciously. We would do well to embrace what these two scenes are saying. Honor the mothers, folks. Honor them. For they care for the children who each have angels which behold the face of the Father. [Matt. 18:10]
Eventually, Ian gathered enough courage to go inside the tourist agency to meet Toula face to face. Now the bells and whistles and rockets started. Romance began. A clandestine romance filled their nights. To hide the Romeo and Juliet escapades, the pair continued their secret love hidden from Toula's parents, continued it while Toula attended "another night class", a pottery class in which not the first ounce of clay is molded. Not in classs, anyway
Now the physical aspects began. To describe the progression of physical involvement between Ian and Toula, let me tell you about the old Ford Motor Company torque system. Before precision torque wrenches were developed to tighten bolts to precision tension so the bolt heads would not pop off due to heat expansion during full opertating temperature, the FoMoCo developed the body measurement of torque to apply to bolts: finger tighten, full hand (with wrench), full hand and forearm, full arm, full arm and shoulder, full body. On their first date - after pottery class, dontcha know - when Ian dropped Toula off at her home, he gave her a "finger tighten" kiss. On the third or fourth date, it was a "full hand" kiss. It wasn't long before the kiss was "full body." [Gal. 5:19, Eph. 5:5] Yes, there was intercourse in this PG movie. It was TV soap opera caliber intercourse with her appearing to be fully clothed and he nude with no genitals or other privates seen, but this unmarried couple obviously had been engaged in immoral intercourse. Indeed, it is because of the sexual content that this movie earned the red CAPAlert light.
There is much more to the story and most of it is wholesome and gentle, but some is not. There are other sexual improprieties in it plus some uses of the three/four letter word vocabulary [Prov. 13:3, 2Tim. 2:16] and drinking and smoking. God's name is used in vain eight times but without the four letter expletive [Deut. 5:11]. The listing in the Findings/Scoring section tells all that was noted.
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Offense to God (O)(2):
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